Lately, I’ve noticed how people approach dating like they’re managing a hydropower plant always tweaking, optimizing, and trying to maximize output. It’s as if every interaction has to be perfectly calibrated for efficiency, and anything less feels like wasted energy. But isn’t dating supposed to be more about the natural flow of connection rather than hitting some ideal metric?
I get it we all want to find someone who fits well with us, but it feels like the focus has shifted from enjoying the process to treating it like a project with KPIs. Has anyone else felt this way? How do you balance the desire for a meaningful connection with the pressure to “get it right”? I’d love to hear your thoughts or any advice on how to keep things more organic and less like a spreadsheet.