Lately, I’ve been wondering if marriage is less of a “natural next step” and more of a societal experiment we’re all nudged into without really stress-testing it first. Don’t get me wrong I’ve seen great marriages, but I’ve also watched plenty crash like a bad software rollout.
As someone who spends a lot of time analyzing systems (LEED consulting has me obsessing over sustainability and structure), it’s hard not to see parallels. We’re handed this template for partnership, but the fine print emotional labor, shifting expectations, the sheer work of it doesn’t always get highlighted upfront.
Maybe it’s the rock climber in me, but I’d love a better sense of the risk assessment before committing to a route. Or is that just overthinking it? For those who’ve taken the plunge did it feel like a leap of faith, or did you have a solid beta to work from? Curious to hear how others navigate this.